Guest Post: What’s something that sucks about being a man?

I hate that I scared my neighbor to half to death with a friendly “Hello.” She didn’t know I was there. We had a perfectly fine, neighborly relationship. She is one of the top lawyers in our city, regularly appears on Top 40 under 40 lists and is a frequent commentator on legal stories on the news. She is accomplished in ways I will never be. But with one word, I reminded her of her vulnerabilities.

I hate that as a father I will have to teach my daughters to be wary of men. I hate the fact that one of my motivations for enrolling them in Taekwondo is so that they will be able to defend themselves when a boy/man doesn’t take “No” for an answer. I hate that I will condone violence in them in a way that I would not if I had sons.

I hate the fact that almost every woman I know posted #metoo. Some chose to tell their stories, others did not. That was their choice but also not the point.

I hate the fact that I might be responsible for someone’s #metoo posting. I can’t point to a specific occasion but I can’t discount the possibility that what I believed was a flirtatious gesture or comment, though likely awkward, was perhaps viewed as sinister.

From the Editor’s Desk:

I had to share this ‘statement/article’ I found by Jamie Harrison posted on Quora because it speaks volume to me, and I hope to all the men out there. Especially those who have made it so hard for women to feel safe around them! While I will not claim to be a feminist, I strongly believe in Gender Equality, Women Rights and Equal Respect for all and feel it is important that voices like Jamie are heard and shared more and more each day!

So, Let’s BEGIN!

And remember, Be KIND to YOURSELF & KINDER to those AROUND You

– Szebastian Onne

Author: Jamie Harrison is a Former journalist, so-so rhythm guitarist, terrible golfer and a proud father. [Article ‘upvoted/liked’ by 5320 Quora Users and viewed by 56.6K at the time of this publication]

Connect With Jamie Harrison on Quora 


Showing 6 comments
  • Chris

    Interesting read thanks and a tough subject to write about. Thanks!

  • Kelly

    So, I love his voice. I have caught myself being that woman not knowing if I could trust a man “lurking” behind me. The bad apples ruin the bunch, and it’s sad. I like his honesty. Thanks for sharing

  • MegOhKay

    As sad as I am to read this article, as a woman I appreciate that Szebastian has taken a moment to see things from a different perspective. It also gives me a lot to think about as I raise my daughter and sons. Thank you for sharing this.

  • forkwardthinkingfoodinista

    Such an interesting read, to hear things from your side of the coin so to speak, being a man. I can see why you would hate to have to teach your daughter to be wary of “some” men – sad fact of life x

  • fashionandstylepolice

    I love this post. The message is deep and so true. We need to educate men on how to respect women, many have no clue how to. It sucks. I am starting one day at a time with my son.

  • nadaliebardo

    Wow… honestly I’ve never ever thought about this from a man’s perspective. I’m so guilty of thinking, “honestly it’s all you fault, why we feel unsafe, why the world is the way it is.” Thanks for the perspective!

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